In a world of pop stars it’s not always easy to stand out, but when you’re a fabulous diva who combines Barbie and Ken with some cute vocals and a sense of confidence that can inspire a new generation, it does get a little easier.
Queer world: get ready for Queen Sir JET!
Having already released two unapologetically queer EPs, debuting in 2012 with “Shout-out to the Lonely” and giving us the iconicly named follow-up “Empowered Bottom” back in 2020, she’s back for more and this time she’s rightfully added Queen to her title.
Queen Sir JET grew up in the suburbs of Chicago and later Scottsdale (Arizona) with her two parents and older sister. She was a two-year-old male who wanted to play with dolls and wear sparkly leotards that grew into a teenager who despised his body hair and his changing voice. A doctor diagnosed her as having a mental disorder, gender dysmorphia, and put her on anti-depressants.
“It wasn’t until I was 28, living on my own in Hollywood, when I began to understand it was safe to come out of hiding,” Queen Sir JET says. She bleached her hair like her idol Marie Fredrikkson of Roxette and started wearing female clothing and painting her nails. Cut to escaping such a heteronormative world, embracing her identity and a couple of EPs later, she added Queen to her title and began working with the wonderful Velvet Code on some new singles.
“Stay With Me” will mark the fourth collaboration between the two, in the form of a mid-tempo, electronic style song that dives into her psyche to ask those soulful questions she often ponders about in real life. The real thought provoking stuff like “is she a good person?”
Despite admitting that she has never had a real relationship, “I’ve gone on many dates, but despite my wanting to be in a relationship, I have never quite reached that level of connection with another person,” she explains, Queen Sir JET may be alone, but she is not necessarily lonely. She has learned to embrace life’s sadness, the same way she embraces life’s joy, and hopes her new single inspires listeners to do the same. “Sadness is part of the process in everything we experience,” she continues, “You can’t find true happiness until you find who you are without it, and that is only found through grief and isolation.”
Before we have a listen of the new track, let’s delve deeper with our Queen and get to know more about the babe behind the muscle-fuelled glamour.
Interview time
To introduce yourself to a potential new audience, how would you describe yourself in 10 words?
America’s favourite introverted, cross-dressing muscle fem power bottom pop star
How has your year been so far?
Chaotic. It’s been a very strange year where strange bills pop up unexpectedly, sitting on the phone for hours with insurance companies, and just random financial losses. My horoscopes said things would be like that though the first half of 2024. Supposedly the 2nd half is going to be a blast though.
You blend the ideals of masculinity and femininity in a beautiful little bow, how was the gender journey to get there?
I was told from a very young age that my feminine tendencies were not normal, and as an adolescent I did my best to suppress them. For some reason within that strange isolation bubble I put myself in I discovered I really loved weight-lifting and sculpting my body. When I was in my late twenties, I started experimenting with lingerie in the same way I used to play dress-up as a child, and it was from there I realized one can decorate a man’s muscular body in the same way a woman with curves can be adorned with lingerie. Together it all felt very uplifting.
Could you offer any advice for someone looking to discover and embrace their truth?
Experiment. If you feel inspired to try something in the safety of your own home or room, just do it. Do it in a way where no one can judge you so you can truly enjoy the experience without outside voices making things awkward.
You’re quite the singer, when did you first discover your voice?
I did not like the idea of my voice changing when I was a teenager. I didn’t want a “boy’s” voice, so I just stopped talking all together. If I needed something, I just whispered my need. It worked until I had to actually do something in public. Simultaneously I hated my own voice but I yearned to sing. I wanted to be a singer so bad. At 19 I decided to take the risk, and I started taking voice lessons privately. It was a very difficult process, psychologically allowing myself to produce sound when I had been suppressing it for nearly a decade. But I kept at it, and at age twenty on the first day of school, I used my real voice to talk to a teacher. And I continued at it, taking lessons and talking. I admit I was not a great singer at first, in fact I honestly feel it took about eight years to find my pop singing voice.
Recently (prior to “Stay With Me”) you’ve released the wonderful single “Break Free” with Velvet Code, which is undoubtedly a fabulous camp queer bop. What does the song mean to you?
The chorus of the song is very simple: all I want to do is break free. The versus are the anxieties that were plaguing me at the time of writing: being good enough, self-sabotage, etc. Ultimately it was a song about wanting to let go of life’s stresses, despite that most stresses are all in our heads. We make up our own anxieties so often, and what we need so badly is to just break free of those problems that are all in our heads.
How did the creative process for particular single differ to your previous hits?
Break Free was one of those songs that took several revisions. We sat with that song rewriting lyrics for several months. I’m a very wordy person so I sometimes I need producers like Velvet to help me simplify what I’m trying to say.
Other than your own, what is your favourite song right now and can you sing us a few lines?
One of my favourite things about apple music is the suggestions. Because I love Eurovision hits from the early 2010s, it suggests a lot of Euro pop songs from that period. I’ve recently become enamoured with a song called Verona by Koit Toome and Laura Poldvere.
Outside of music you’re also embrace your body as an adult content star, have you always been so confident with exposing your body?
I didn’t like the idea that I was born a boy when I was child. Growing up in a conservative family my parents did all they could to make sure I never found out about gender fluidity or transgenderism. They said things like it was ok for Boy George to be female like because he was putting on a show, it was entertainment in the same way men played women’s parts in kabuki theatre. I started working out at age 18, and I found out after a few years my developed muscular body was welcomed by others, and I enjoyed the attention. I was never taught to be ashamed of my body as a child, just ashamed of the way I behaved, so I never developed insecurities about being naked in front of other people. My first erotic photo shoot I think was when I was 23 or 24. If you google hard enough you can still find some of the original images.
What is your favourite aspect of creating sexual content?
Honestly, getting double penetrated. It feels so wild, like your body is being split in half. And then all of a sudden once you relax into it, it’s like the ultimate pleasure.
Do you have any dream collaborations?
There’s been a couple on my wish list: Mateo Muscle, Acrodave, Filou Fit, Jett Wayne
Are you working on any other projects currently?
We’re getting ready to release the full EP, The Torture of Consent, sometime later this year, and hopefully another music video. I’m also in talks to sign with a new booking agent, so hopefully I’ll start performing live again at festivals, etc.
Just for fun, tell us an unusual fact about yourself?
I was taught to suppress my feelings a lot as a child because I used to cry at school over random things, like when I got a bad grade. I think I’m currently going through some sort of unconscious healing because I barely cried at all as an adult, then all of a sudden in the last year I started crying constantly. Like sometimes I’m on the treadmill and I’ll have a random thought and start tearing up.
What can we expect to see from you in the rest of 2025?
Hopefully some new shoes. It’s been years since I’ve been able to afford new heels. I haven’t bought any new ones since 2020.
I should probably start a Pleaser fund lol.
Now that’s a queen with a lot of depth, both emotional and well, literally as it turns out!
So we’ve got some background info, we’ve had a nice interview and we’ve thrown a few nods to the back catalogue, let’s have ourselves a listen to the latest single shall we?
Here is the wonderful “Stay With Me”:
We can absolutely see ourselves vibing to this with a drink in one hand and bottle of poppers in the other while living our best lives on the dancefloor.
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